Yearly Archives: 2011

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Know Thyself: What is Personal Intimacy Anyway?

By |October 3rd, 2011|

My clients often come into my office wondering how to bring greater joy into their lives. We all – myself included – are looking for ways to bring greater joy into our lives. This quest for meaning and happiness is evidenced through the multi-million-dollar self-help industry which offers techniques, thoughts, potions, and pills to purportedly […]

the CHOOSE project

By |September 5th, 2011|

CHOOSE… Intimacy.

CHOOSE…

Life. Love. Happiness. Gratitude. Enlightenment. Peace. Health. Spirituality.

CHOOSE… whatever you can dream!

YOU fill in the blank. After all, it’s your life.

I am always sharing with people how, with a shift in perspective, you can choose your life. Yes. YOU can actually create the life YOU want to live.

It matters not at all the situations […]

Intimacy InterCourse: Project Relationship

By |August 23rd, 2011|

Hellllllloooooo, Designeeeeeeeerrrs!

Your challenge beginning today will be to choose all the materials you need to design a fabulous relationship!

You will incorporate these materials into your design so that the final product represents your passion, sense of style, and vision for the future. A critical aspect of your design is that it must be constructed to […]

Intimacy InterCourse: After “The Apology”

By |August 10th, 2011|

Here’s a scenario that plays itself out almost daily in my practice…

Couples argue.  They scream and yell and curse at each other.  Shoes have been thrown.

In front of me.

I don’t know why, but I’m comfortable with that.  (The reasons why would require an entirely separate blog series…)

As I wrote in “Into Me See,” the desired […]

Don’t Look! Into Me See…

By |July 28th, 2011|

Intimacy…

Into Me See.

Over the past few weeks I’ve been asked by people very close to me – including my uber-successful (and competitive) sister with whom I’ve experienced major sibling rivalry – what makes me an “intimacy expert?”

She asked me this not because I’ve excelled in the romantic-relationships department.  She asked me because I have not. […]

The Second Coming of The Weiner Epidemic: Prophylaxis

By |July 6th, 2011|

When I first brought you “The Weiner Epidemic: Disease of Disconnect,” I was (hopefully) offering insight into the role that intimacy – or the lack thereof  – plays in the demise of relationships, often right from their inception (love that movie!).  The “Disease of Disconnect” highlighted the role that truly “knowing” and being connected to […]

You Rule

By |June 28th, 2011|

Lately I’ve noticed that people are spending a lot of their time coming up with ways to NOT follow Rules.

If there’s a Rule lurking out there, the knee-jerk reaction to it very often seems to be: “It’s wrong that this Rule is in place, limiting my freedom – and I must break it!” It’s almost […]

The Weiner Epidemic: Disease of Disconnect

By |June 16th, 2011|

So we now have a face and a name (with a capital W) to be the poster-child and fall-guy for the oft-maligned, yet essentially innocent word… weiner.  As of this writing, Anthony Weiner has announced his resignation from Congress for sending lewd photos and sexts – via online means like Twitter – to at least […]

Letting Id All Hang Out

By |February 23rd, 2011|

Ah, yes.. the id.  That Freudian psychoanalytic term for the part of our personality made up of unconscious energy existing to satisfy all our basic urges, needs, and desires.  We all know that feeling when the id takes over and is pushing us with its need for immediate gratification.  I pride myself, of course, on […]

Throw a Wrench in It!

By |February 16th, 2011|

Everything in my life happens in themes.  I have learned over the years to simply step aside and see what themes emerge.  Although I’ve received training in a number of therapeutic orientations – including psychodynamic, behavioral, and humanistic – I can’t help but conceptualize what my clients are telling me as themes or threads that […]