Collect Yourself

By |June 1st, 2015|

As we humans have evolved, we seem to want more stuff.

So we collect. We collect things like shoes, smartphones, academic degrees, handbags, fun experiences, cars, makeup, careers…

Some people collect relationships.

And just like when we were little kids and didn’t want to get rid of one toy to make room for another – we wanted them […]

Comments Off on Collect Yourself

Know Thyself: What is Personal Intimacy Anyway?

By |October 3rd, 2011|

My clients often come into my office wondering how to bring greater joy into their lives. We all – myself included – are looking for ways to bring greater joy into our lives. This quest for meaning and happiness is evidenced through the multi-million-dollar self-help industry which offers techniques, thoughts, potions, and pills to purportedly […]

Comments Off on Know Thyself: What is Personal Intimacy Anyway?

Intimacy InterCourse: Project Relationship

By |August 23rd, 2011|

Hellllllloooooo, Designeeeeeeeerrrs!

Your challenge beginning today will be to choose all the materials you need to design a fabulous relationship!

You will incorporate these materials into your design so that the final product represents your passion, sense of style, and vision for the future. A critical aspect of your design is that it must be constructed to […]

Comments Off on Intimacy InterCourse: Project Relationship

Intimacy InterCourse: After “The Apology”

By |August 10th, 2011|

Here’s a scenario that plays itself out almost daily in my practice…

Couples argue.  They scream and yell and curse at each other.  Shoes have been thrown.

In front of me.

I don’t know why, but I’m comfortable with that.  (The reasons why would require an entirely separate blog series…)

As I wrote in “Into Me See,” the desired […]

Comments Off on Intimacy InterCourse: After “The Apology”

Don’t Look! Into Me See…

By |July 28th, 2011|


Into Me See.

Over the past few weeks I’ve been asked by people very close to me – including my uber-successful (and competitive) sister with whom I’ve experienced major sibling rivalry – what makes me an “intimacy expert?”

She asked me this not because I’ve excelled in the romantic-relationships department.  She asked me because I have not. […]

Comments Off on Don’t Look! Into Me See…

The Weiner Epidemic: Disease of Disconnect

By |June 16th, 2011|

So we now have a face and a name (with a capital W) to be the poster-child and fall-guy for the oft-maligned, yet essentially innocent word… weiner.  As of this writing, Anthony Weiner has announced his resignation from Congress for sending lewd photos and sexts – via online means like Twitter – to at least […]

Comments Off on The Weiner Epidemic: Disease of Disconnect

Letting Id All Hang Out

By |February 23rd, 2011|

Ah, yes.. the id.  That Freudian psychoanalytic term for the part of our personality made up of unconscious energy existing to satisfy all our basic urges, needs, and desires.  We all know that feeling when the id takes over and is pushing us with its need for immediate gratification.  I pride myself, of course, on […]

Comments Off on Letting Id All Hang Out